Sometimes,
when our doubts, fears, and insecurities overwhelm us, we tend to think, “I
wish I was somebody else.” More often than not, we think and believe that
someone or rather, most people are better than us, when in reality the fact is
most people are just as worried and insecure.
Where am I wrong?
I had a
great mentor who helped me to be what I’m so far; I’m extremely happy with his association but not
satisfied with my accomplishments yet. But,
one thing I have learned is not to feel insecure regardless of what it may....
Isn’t it
funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect
and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and think the
same thing. We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us.
We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in
personal development because we are enveloped in quiet desperation. It is one of those Smoke in the mirror like situations that even one of the greatest personalities and the Hero of Mahabharath “Arjun”
went through. You know what happened
after that…
One key is
to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone who you feel comfortable
with talking about personal matters. Someone you know will be brutally honest
rather than tactful. Ask even simple questions like “Do you think I am
ill-mannered?”, “Do I always sound so argumentative?”, “Do I talk too loud?”,
“Does my breath smell?”, “Do I ever bore you when we are together?” In this
way, the other person will obviously know that you are interested in the
process of personal development. Lend your ears for comments and criticisms and
don’t give her answers like “Don’t exaggerate! Yes but…!”
Most of us have
our own insecurities. A very few are perfect. We always wish we had better things,
better features, better body parts, etc. Personal development and loving
yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are/aren’t
perfect and you are/aren’t the best. It is the virtue of acceptance and
contentment.
"Don't
wish it were easier; wish you were better. Don't wish for less problems; wish
for more skills. Don't wish for less challenges; wish for more wisdom."
